Dear G: 3 Months

Dear G,

IT HAS BEEN 3 MONTHS!!! I cannot believe it! I know I say that on almost every post but, I honestly cannot believe that it has been three whole months since you graced us with your presence!

10 Self-Care Tips

Don’t ever let anyone tell you that healing yourself is not important. We all struggle but very few of us actually take the time to heal. Tbh, it seems that taking the time to heal yourself and practice some self-care is frowned upon and most people don’t understand it. Being in college, a new mom, and simply trying to take over the world is stressful. So, I am going to share my 10 favorite ways I practice self-care and maybe you will see something that works for you

15 things that make Moms happy

Mom'in is hard. You are sleep deprived, hungry, and feel miserable despite the bundle of joy you just brought home. People are “oooing” and “ahhing” over your precious baby and you cant stop melting every time you look at him/her either. No matter how cute your baby is though, the first few weeks/months are HARD. Those cute melting moments seem to last for merely seconds before you are wondering where you next cup of coffee is coming from. Even though we may feel like zombies, there are still some things that make us moms jump for joy besides our gorgeous nuggets. It’s the little things in life, right?

1. Naptime
2. Target
3. Being told/shown that we are appreciated
4. Coffee
5. Naptime
6. Peace and quiet
7. A nice warm cozy bed
8. When people offer to baby sit
9. Chocolate
10. Sleep aka naptime
11. A night or day out
12. Buying baby/kids clothes
13. Being able to fit into your pre-baby clothes
14. Baths
15. Did I forget to mention, naptime?

Being a mom is wonderful but I think we can all agree sleep is a necessity we all lack. However, it's all worth it when we see our kiddos smile.

Dear G: Week 9

Dear G,

It has been a little over 2 months since your birth. You have changed and grown so much since then. We went to the doctors the other day and you weighed almost 11 pounds! My heart broke a tad because you were once only 5. You prove every day to be my biggest blessing. I never knew I could love waking up to someone screaming for “food” every morning so much. Your dark curly hair seems to be growing thicker; thank goodness because we do not want any bald spots. Don’t worry, I’ll love you even if you do get them. Lol.

This past week has been insane. You are starting to “talk” more and more. Your little personality is really starting to show. I cannot get enough of your big gummy smile. You are going to be a big talker and the center of attention. You speak up and make sure your voice is heard if you feel like we aren’t giving you that much attention. We have discovered that you really like laying on your play yard and aren’t really a big fan of your swing. There is this one song that really gets you going when it comes on. I have tried to listen to see which lullaby it is but I can’t quite figure it out.

This last month flew by. I can hardly believe it. This is a time when I realize how badly I need to focus on the now and live in the moment. I have found myself dwelling on the past or stressing about the future. That lead to many weeks flying by and me not truly enjoying you. I have been  really hard on myself here lately. I ask myself why in the world did I do this to you? Was I selfish to bring you into this world when I knew the situation wouldn’t be “ideal.” I feel terrible to think that maybe one day you will feel like you are missing out. This is when I realize I need to focus on the now and take one step at a time. Just know as long as you have me, I will do my best to give you the world and more.

Life has been a little difficult for your Mommy lately. School is kicking my butt and people are just too much. However, you honestly make every bad day worth living. It’s like you know when I have a lot to do or am stressed out. You have your way of being sort of a difficult Nugget on those days but we make it through them. As frustrated as I may get when I accomplish everything and you fall asleep smiling in my arms, I feel at peace and laugh at the struggle. You being difficult on those days I believe is your way of showing me how strong I am and how I can accomplish anything despite the obstacles.

I really do not understand how people can see you growing so quickly and still not want to be a part of this experience. I ask you every day if you know how much I love you. I explain to you how it’s indescribable, you laugh. I could kiss you 100million times (I’m sure I have already) and it still would not be enough. I find myself just staring at you because I have never seen someone so perfect. You are as sweet as candy and I love candy. It baffles me how I truly created the most beautiful human.

Everyone says I am spoiling you. Your Granddad will walk by and see you laying on my chest and whisper “you are spoiling her.” Honestly, I do not care too much. I love cuddling you and girl you love to be cuddled. I have gotten better at putting you in your bed though. You sleep through the night for the most part these days. However, I do let you cuddle up next to me from 4am-10am, I figure that isn’t too bad. Lol. I may regret that decision in a few years when I cannot get you out of my bed but for now who cares. We both enjoy it so what does it matter.

I am not sure what the future holds for us baby girl. I look forward to all the trips and adventures we are going to take. Halloween is my favorite holiday, so I am excited to partake in spooky activities with you. You won’t remember them but I will and can’t wait to tell you about them.

You are my world. I didn’t think I’d ever be a sappy mom, much less a mom. BUT I talk about you non-stop. I haven’t stopped taking pictures of you since you were born. Your photo album collection will be insane.

To many more months with you G.

Mommy loves you.

Xoxo.

Monogamy? What is that?

*ques Ctrl to play in the background*

Why does it seem that monogamy is a thing of the past? Tbh, I think out of 22 years of my life I have been in ONE relationship where there was not another female involved in some way, shape, or form. Even in that one relationship, I am not entirely sure but I’m afraid to ask because we are still good friends to this day and I hate to dislike him.

Why is it nearly impossible for a guy to be honest about his intentions? From my experience, there is ALWAYS that one female who never goes away. They will say they are just “friends” and have been friends forever *rolls eyes*. It’s funny how that “friend” always ends up proving to be more than just a friend in the end. If you all are anything like me, you try to trust people, ya know? You like this person, they seem to be everything that you could ever want so if they say they’re just friends why not believe them? He has run a good game saying how he will never hurt you blah, blah, blah. If you bring up his “friend” he will often tell you that you are crazy, etc.

Girl, do not feel crazy. DO NOT BE AFRAID TO PROTECT YOURSELF. Ask those questions, be nosey, and pay attention. There is nothing worse than finding out that you’ve been sitting back sort of condoning a relationship because you trusted someone. I learned this the hard way.

However, do not drive yourself crazy looking for stuff. Do not go through phones. Do not constantly check to see whose photos he is liking on Instagram. If you have to do all of that, the relationship is not worth it. If this guy is serious about you, he will make sure that you have no worries. There won’t be another woman threatening your spot in his life. Also, if you express to him your feelings about said other woman, he will fix the problem. It’s that simple.

Unfortunately, as a twenty-something I am pretty sure we all have been someone’s 9-5 or weekend whether we knew about it or not. I see so many young woman basing their worth off the way that a trash dude treated them. Instead of sitting and wondering why he did this to you or how he could do this to you, level up. No matter how many times you ask him those questions, you will probably never get an answer. If you do get an answer, it won’t be a genuine one.

Guys truly do not know why they do the things that they do. They live for instant gratification. Think about it like this, have you ever seen a child play with just one toy unless they ABSOUTLEY have to? Children are typically surrounded by toys. They get bored with one and jump to the next and then back to the first one they had.

As women, we have to know how to differentiate a man from a boy. We also must know our own worth. You can’t expect a man to treat you like a queen if you don’t believe that you are queen yourself. Make your worth known from the beginning. Let him know you will not be a 9-5 or the weekend. You are all or nothing. Do not be afraid to state your worth and never settle. 

One false perception that our society carries is that we only have one soulmate. That is not true. We have multiple soulmates. Love is hard. Love is a choice. Love hurts. True love can prosper through anything. When you truly love someone, you love them for everything they are and are not. Do not get discourage when the man you thought you’d marry proves to be everything you did not want. He was there to teach you a lesson. Do not attach yourself to the person that you are losing. Instead remain grateful and appreciate the lessons that you learned. Know that in due time the perfect man will find you. You should never have to look for love. Let it find you. While you are waiting, focus on you. Go to the gym, read, drink your water, and enjoy your alone time.