Don’t ever let anyone tell you that healing yourself is not
important. We all struggle but very few of us actually take the time to heal.
Tbh, it seems that taking the time to heal yourself and practice some self-care
is frowned upon and most people don’t understand it. Being in college, a new
mom, and simply trying to take over the world is stressful. So, I am going to
share my 10 favorite ways I practice self-care and maybe you will see something
that works for you
Mom'in is hard. You are sleep deprived, hungry, and feel
miserable despite the bundle of joy you just brought home. People are “oooing”
and “ahhing” over your precious baby and you cant stop melting every time you
look at him/her either. No matter how cute your baby is though, the first few weeks/months are HARD. Those cute melting moments seem to last for merely seconds
before you are wondering where you next cup of coffee is coming from. Even
though we may feel like zombies, there are still some things that make us moms jump
for joy besides our gorgeous nuggets. It’s the little things in life, right?
Being told/shown that we are appreciated
Peace and quiet
A nice warm cozy bed
When people offer to baby sit
Sleep aka naptime
A night or day out
Buying baby/kids clothes
Being able to fit into your pre-baby clothes
Did I forget to mention, naptime?
Being a mom is wonderful but I think we can all agree sleep
is a necessity we all lack. However, it's all worth it when we see our
It has been a little over 2 months since your birth. You have
changed and grown so much since then. We went to the doctors the other day and
you weighed almost 11 pounds! My heart broke a tad because you were once only
5. You prove every day to be my biggest blessing. I never knew I could love
waking up to someone screaming for “food” every morning so much. Your dark
curly hair seems to be growing thicker; thank goodness because we do not want
any bald spots. Don’t worry, I’ll love you even if you do get them. Lol.
This past week has been insane. You are starting to “talk”
more and more. Your little personality is really starting to show. I cannot get
enough of your big gummy smile. You are going to be a big talker and the center
of attention. You speak up and make sure your voice is heard if you feel like
we aren’t giving you that much attention. We have discovered that you really
like laying on your play yard and aren’t really a big fan of your swing. There
is this one song that really gets you going when it comes on. I have tried to listen
to see which lullaby it is but I can’t quite figure it out.
This last month flew by. I can hardly believe it. This is a time
when I realize how badly I need to focus on the now and live in the moment. I
have found myself dwelling on the past or stressing about the future. That lead
to many weeks flying by and me not truly enjoying you. I have been really hard on myself here lately. I ask
myself why in the world did I do this to you? Was I selfish to bring you into
this world when I knew the situation wouldn’t be “ideal.” I feel terrible to
think that maybe one day you will feel like you are missing out. This is when I
realize I need to focus on the now and take one step at a time. Just know as
long as you have me, I will do my best to give you the world and more.
Life has been a little difficult for your Mommy lately.
School is kicking my butt and people are just too much. However, you honestly make
every bad day worth living. It’s like you know when I have a lot to do or am
stressed out. You have your way of being sort of a difficult Nugget on those
days but we make it through them. As frustrated as I may get when I accomplish
everything and you fall asleep smiling in my arms, I feel at peace and laugh at
the struggle. You being difficult on those days I believe is your way of
showing me how strong I am and how I can accomplish anything despite the
I really do not understand how people can see you growing so
quickly and still not want to be a part of this experience. I ask you every day
if you know how much I love you. I explain to you how it’s indescribable, you
laugh. I could kiss you 100million times (I’m sure I have already) and it still
would not be enough. I find myself just staring at you because I have never
seen someone so perfect. You are as sweet as candy and I love candy. It baffles
me how I truly created the most beautiful human.
Everyone says I am spoiling you. Your Granddad will walk by
and see you laying on my chest and whisper “you are spoiling her.” Honestly, I
do not care too much. I love cuddling you and girl you love to be cuddled. I
have gotten better at putting you in your bed though. You sleep through the
night for the most part these days. However, I do let you cuddle up next to me
from 4am-10am, I figure that isn’t too bad. Lol. I may regret that decision in
a few years when I cannot get you out of my bed but for now who cares. We both
enjoy it so what does it matter.
I am not sure what the future holds for us baby girl. I look
forward to all the trips and adventures we are going to take. Halloween is my
favorite holiday, so I am excited to partake in spooky activities with you. You
won’t remember them but I will and can’t wait to tell you about them.
You are my world. I didn’t think I’d ever be a sappy mom,
much less a mom. BUT I talk about you non-stop. I haven’t stopped taking
pictures of you since you were born. Your photo album collection will be
Why does it seem
that monogamy is a thing of the past? Tbh, I think out of 22 years of my life I
have been in ONE relationship where there was not another female involved
in some way, shape, or form. Even in that one relationship, I am not entirely
sure but I’m afraid to ask because we are still good friends to this day and I
hate to dislike him.
Why is it nearly
impossible for a guy to be honest about his intentions? From my experience,
there is ALWAYS that one female who never goes away. They will say they are
just “friends” and have been friends forever *rolls eyes*. It’s funny
how that “friend” always ends up proving to be more than just a friend in the
end. If you all are anything like me, you try to trust people, ya know? You like
this person, they seem to be everything that you could ever want so if they say
they’re just friends why not believe them? He has run a good game saying how he
will never hurt you blah, blah, blah. If you bring up his “friend” he will
often tell you that you are crazy, etc.
Girl, do not feel
crazy. DO NOT BE AFRAID TO PROTECT
YOURSELF. Ask those questions, be nosey, and pay attention. There is
nothing worse than finding out that you’ve been sitting back sort of condoning
a relationship because you trusted someone. I learned this the hard way.
However, do not
drive yourself crazy looking for stuff. Do not go through phones. Do not
constantly check to see whose photos he is liking on Instagram. If you have to
do all of that, the relationship is not worth it. If this guy is serious about
you, he will make sure that you have no worries. There won’t be another woman threatening your spot in his life. Also, if you express to him your
feelings about said other woman, he will fix the problem. It’s that simple.
Unfortunately, as a
twenty-something I am pretty sure we all have been someone’s 9-5 or weekend
whether we knew about it or not. I see so many young woman basing their worth off
the way that a trash dude treated them. Instead of sitting and wondering why he
did this to you or how he could do this to you, level up. No matter how
many times you ask him those questions, you will probably never get an answer.
If you do get an answer, it won’t be a genuine one.
Guys truly do not
know why they do the things that they do. They live for instant gratification.
Think about it like this, have you ever seen a child play with just one toy
unless they ABSOUTLEY have to? Children are typically surrounded by toys. They
get bored with one and jump to the next and then back to the first one they
As women, we have to
know how to differentiate a man from a boy. We also must know our own worth.
You can’t expect a man to treat you like a queen if you don’t believe that you
are queen yourself. Make your worth known from the beginning. Let him know you
will not be a 9-5 or the weekend. You are all or nothing. Do not be afraid to
state your worth and never settle.
One false perception that our society
carries is that we only have one soulmate. That is not true. We have multiple
soulmates. Love is hard. Love is a choice. Love hurts. True love can prosper
through anything. When you truly love someone, you love them for everything
they are and are not. Do not get discourage when the man you thought you’d
marry proves to be everything you did not want. He was there to teach you a
lesson. Do not attach yourself to the person that you are losing. Instead
remain grateful and appreciate the lessons that you learned. Know that in due
time the perfect man will find you. You should never have to look for love. Let
it find you. While you are waiting, focus on you. Go to the gym, read, drink
your water, and enjoy your alone time.