*ques Ctrl to play
in the background*
Why does it seem
that monogamy is a thing of the past? Tbh, I think out of 22 years of my life I
have been in ONE relationship where there was not another female involved
in some way, shape, or form. Even in that one relationship, I am not entirely
sure but I’m afraid to ask because we are still good friends to this day and I
hate to dislike him.
Why is it nearly
impossible for a guy to be honest about his intentions? From my experience,
there is ALWAYS that one female who never goes away. They will say they are
just “friends” and have been friends forever *rolls eyes*. It’s funny
how that “friend” always ends up proving to be more than just a friend in the
end. If you all are anything like me, you try to trust people, ya know? You like
this person, they seem to be everything that you could ever want so if they say
they’re just friends why not believe them? He has run a good game saying how he
will never hurt you blah, blah, blah. If you bring up his “friend” he will
often tell you that you are crazy, etc.
Girl, do not feel
crazy. DO NOT BE AFRAID TO PROTECT
YOURSELF. Ask those questions, be nosey, and pay attention. There is
nothing worse than finding out that you’ve been sitting back sort of condoning
a relationship because you trusted someone. I learned this the hard way.
However, do not
drive yourself crazy looking for stuff. Do not go through phones. Do not
constantly check to see whose photos he is liking on Instagram. If you have to
do all of that, the relationship is not worth it. If this guy is serious about
you, he will make sure that you have no worries. There won’t be another woman threatening your spot in his life. Also, if you express to him your
feelings about said other woman, he will fix the problem. It’s that simple.
Unfortunately, as a
twenty-something I am pretty sure we all have been someone’s 9-5 or weekend
whether we knew about it or not. I see so many young woman basing their worth off
the way that a trash dude treated them. Instead of sitting and wondering why he
did this to you or how he could do this to you, level up. No matter how
many times you ask him those questions, you will probably never get an answer.
If you do get an answer, it won’t be a genuine one.
Guys truly do not
know why they do the things that they do. They live for instant gratification.
Think about it like this, have you ever seen a child play with just one toy
unless they ABSOUTLEY have to? Children are typically surrounded by toys. They
get bored with one and jump to the next and then back to the first one they
had.
As women, we have to
know how to differentiate a man from a boy. We also must know our own worth.
You can’t expect a man to treat you like a queen if you don’t believe that you
are queen yourself. Make your worth known from the beginning. Let him know you
will not be a 9-5 or the weekend. You are all or nothing. Do not be afraid to
state your worth and never settle.
One false perception that our society
carries is that we only have one soulmate. That is not true. We have multiple
soulmates. Love is hard. Love is a choice. Love hurts. True love can prosper
through anything. When you truly love someone, you love them for everything
they are and are not. Do not get discourage when the man you thought you’d
marry proves to be everything you did not want. He was there to teach you a
lesson. Do not attach yourself to the person that you are losing. Instead
remain grateful and appreciate the lessons that you learned. Know that in due
time the perfect man will find you. You should never have to look for love. Let
it find you. While you are waiting, focus on you. Go to the gym, read, drink
your water, and enjoy your alone time.
